Help siblings welcome a new baby

Welcoming a new baby is an exciting time, but it can also bring about a mix of emotions for older siblings. Here are some tips to ease the transition and make it a positive experience for everyone.

Prepare in advance

Start talking about the new baby early on. Children, especially younger ones, may not fully understand what’s happening, so it’s important to explain it in simple, age-appropriate terms. Read books together about becoming an older sibling, take a tour of the birth center/hospital and involve them in preparation such as setting up the baby’s room or gear. This helps them feel included in the process.

Encourage emotional expression

It’s natural for older siblings to have mixed feelings, from excitement to jealousy. Acknowledge these emotions and let your child know that it’s okay to feel them. Ask your child how they feel and validate their emotions by saying things like, “It’s normal to feel nervous or even upset about changes.” Create a safe space for feelings through talking, drawing or play.

Focus on their special role

Make sure the older sibling(s) know they are an important part of the family. Highlight the benefits and responsibilities that come with being a big sibling. Encourage gentle ways they can interact with the baby, like holding their hand, singing lullabies or talking to them. If they show interest in helping, give them age-appropriate tasks like getting a diaper or a blanket.

Incorporate one-on-one time

Newborns demand a lot of attention, but it’s important to carve out special moments for your older child(ren). Plan one-on-one activities, whether it’s reading a book, going to the park or playing a game. Let them choose their favorite book, meal or activity.

Be patient & positive

Every child reacts differently to the arrival of a new sibling. Some may warm up quickly, while others may take more time. Be patient with your child as they adjust and expect some regression: It’s not uncommon for older siblings to want to be babied again or show signs of jealousy. This is temporary and usually subsides over time. Praise your older child(ren), whether it’s being helpful or gentle with the baby.

Celebrate the sibling bond

Take photos and videos of your older child holding or interacting with the baby. Encourage activities that foster closeness, like playing together, reading books together or simply spending time together. These moments will be cherished as they grow up and look back on their shared history.

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Dawn Marten, MSN, CNM

oregonbirthandwellness.org

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